4 Oct 2013
When I was growing up, I swore I would never do things or repeat sayings that my mother threw at me, which drove me insane!
Then again, she would also warn me to be careful, "you are gonna eat your words some day!"
A male friend recently told me, that they had met someone who was "too good to be true". WARNING...red lights went flashing and whirling around in my head and all I wanted to say was WATCH OUT!!! It may be true, but you could also not be looking at the right signals.
I have not been single for very long, but because of the nature of this self-imposed journey to find love, I have met a lot of different people. Dated some, talked to some, shared experiences with others and read a lot of love stories/surveys from others following me on this quest.
I too have met a couple men that I thought were too good to be true at first and guess what...they were not. So, who are they?
They are individuals, strangers with many layers, like the proverbial onion we often refer to (there goes my mother again!) All we see at first is the silky outer skin, sometimes even a different color than the other layers below, that makes up the whole.
We don’t take the time to peel back those layers- instead the choice is often to start chopping and dicing because we are hungry. What can happen as a result is that we are left in tears.
The many layers and colors, until you get to the pure white coreSadly for this gentleman, my words of caution were thrown to the compost and he had to learn the hard way- like many before him.
"I hate to say I told you so" UGH...there she goes again!
Have you ever met someone that was too good to be true, only to find out they were not who you thought?
XO
Cheryl
3 Oct 2013
Ladies and gents it is official- my journey that started as a simple quest for love has turned out to be a whirlwind road trip, which has no predetermined finish line- except personal growth. I have no clue the final destination or my ETA, but I have decided to enjoy the scenery along the way.
I have met so many interesting men and women along this path, during my many adventures across North America and Europe- learning something new about myself almost every day.
I have enjoyed the connection and sharing of my story with you and hearing yours in return. I love spreading our collective voice and inspiring each other to continue being hopeful romantics and believe that if we seek companionship, eventually we will find it.
I am using my past experiences to be a better me and thus I am sure, it will reflect on any future relationship I WILL have.
“It is strange how we hold on to the pieces of the past while we wait for our futures.”- Ally Condie
I am not waiting for my future - I am zooming and moving right along into it!
In the near future, you will be able to read "365 days to find love" on Zoomer Singles and if you haven't already signed up to the site…
Get up, get out and get connected.
I wouldn't mind the finish line being here!
XO
Cheryl
2 Oct 2013
Success is who we are- not what we are.
I don't see the word WORK anywhere in this diagram.
I don't see the word WORK anywhere in this diagram.
XO
Cheryl
1 Oct 2013
I invite all of you to join me in sharing our stories with each other. Please fill out this survey and maybe you will be next week’s Talk To Me Tuesdays featured love story! Share your thoughts at Love Quest Survey.
Meet Clifford. A man in his 50s from Montreal. Here are his Love Quest Survey Answers.
1. Do you believe in love at first sight?
YES
2. Would you/have you ever used an online dating site?
YES
3. Would you/have you ever used a matchmaking service?
NO
4. Do you kiss and tell?
NO
5. Do you believe in soulmates, i.e. that there is only one person out there for you?
YES
1. What’s the worst opening line that’s ever been thrown your way?
My mother thinks I'm very pretty :o
2. If you had to plan your perfect date, what would you do?
Keep it simple- go for a long walk and end up at a beautiful restaurant terrace. Have a nice meal over wine and hire a calleche to drive us home
3. What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you on a date?
The girls’ “press-on” nails were peeling off, without her knowing it :o
4. Under what circumstances would you say it is permissible to date a friend’s ex-spouse (if any)?
If your friend passed away 10 years earlier!!
5. What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever done for someone else?
Made a beautiful supper by myself! Flowers on the table and all!! And I can't cook for beans!
How would you like a man who cooked you dinner, even though he couldn’t actually cook?
Share your answers and get the chance to be featured in next week's Talk to me Tuesdays!
XO
Cheryl
30 Sep 2013
On a recent Royal Caribbean cruise vacation, I went to see a show on board that mesmerized me while at the same time intrigued me- conjuring all sorts of metaphors of life.
I was watching this beautiful aerial routine done with silk ribbons suspended from the ceiling and found myself thinking how much this pas de deux was similar to a relationship.
The man and woman entwined themselves within each other and the silk fabric- constantly embracing and releasing each other, with total trust and complete abandonment of fear.
They were relying on each other for support- knowing that if one let the other fall, the dance would be over. The silk flowing like clouds around them transformed what could have been an acrobatic trapeze routine into a soft love affair.
I met with the dance captain for C5 events- Justin Driscol of Atlanta Georgia after the show, to get some idea of what in his opinion, makes for a great duet.
Trust and respect were the first two words he mentioned- lots of practice and no blame, if someone misses a step or falls. You analyze and learn from the mistakes and try to not repeat them so you can grow.
The important part is to master the routine on the ground and work up to the aerial.
Thank you to all the performers for taking my mind and breathe away on such a wonderful romantic journey.
If you were 50 feet up in the air, would you trust your partner to catch you?
XO
Cheryl
24 Sep 2013
I invite all of you to join me in sharing our stories with each other. Please fill out this survey and maybe you will be next week’s Talk To Me Tuesdays featured love story! Share your thoughts at Love Quest Survey.
Meet Jordan. A single man in his 30’s living in Montreal. Here are his answers to the Love Quest Survey.
1. Do you believe in love at first sight?
YES
2. Would you/have you ever used an online dating site?
YES
3. Would you/have you ever used a matchmaking service?
NO
4. Do you kiss and tell?
NO
5. Do you believe in soulmates, i.e. that there is only one person out there for you?
YES
1. What’s the worst opening line that’s ever been thrown your way?
None to be honest.
2. If you had to plan your perfect date, what would you do?
I’d have her meet me at a beautiful restaurant in Montreal most likely in the old port. When I arrive I will arrive with 1 rose not to be too overbearing then we would talk over our dinner in order to get to know each other than when we finish dinner id have a caleche meet us in the front of the restaurant or have it meet us at the corner of the street to make it a little more of a surprise. Then once our ride is over, we could walk around a little more just to get to know more about each other. Then we would go home- I'd walk her home then go back to my place, in order to think about what happen that night. Do we feel mutual about each other?
The End.
3. What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you on a date?
I accidently passed gas and was too ashamed to tell her.
4. Under what circumstances would you say it is permissible to date a friend’s ex-spouse (if any)?
If he is a good friend I think I should get his blessing or if I think he’s a jerk than I don’t see why not.
Also if she is widow.
5. What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever done for someone else?
To tell you the truth I never had the chance to have a really romantic moment however I do look forward.
How would you feel if you had a caleche waiting for you outside the restaurant on your first date?
XO
Cheryl
20 Sep 2013
I am boarding a flight to New York later today and as I pack my bag a song sung by the late great Frank Sinatra and Nat King Cole keeps playing over and over in my mind.
PICK YOURSELF UP
DUST YOURSELF OFF
AND START ALL OVER AGAIN
And that I shall do! My weekend getaway starts with a rendezvous today at 5pm with a "client liaison" (only in NY such eloquent name for matchmaker) from Kelleher International- who's motto is "Making love happen...since 1986".
The company boasts a success rate of 85%, so I figure I have nothing to lose… Well almost nothing. There is a substantial fee attached to their service. Heck, I figure- what better investment can I make than in myself and in the pursuit of companionship. They do all the leg work- screening and arranging, and I just have to show up and meet my potential Mr. Right in the city of choice. Efficient no?
Dating coaches and I agree that we should go to places or do activities that interest us and hopefully like will attract like.
What better place for me than New York?
What do you think about hiring someone to do your screening for you?
XO
Cheryl
18 Sep 2013
With the Jewish New Year in week two, I continue to discover more of the love within- allowing it to change how I see and live life today and my hopes for tomorrow.
365 days to find love is a journey far beyond the adventure I thought it would be- and I realize I'm without a compass.
XO
Cheryl
17 Sep 2013
I invite all of you to join me in sharing our stories with each other. Please fill out this survey and maybe you will be next week’s Talk To Me Tuesdays featured love story! Share your thoughts at Love Quest Survey
Meet Anick from Montreal. She is a woman under 40 and here are her Love Quest Survey Answers.
1. Do you believe in love at first sight?
YES
2. Would you/have you ever used an online dating site?
NO
3. Would you/have you ever used a matchmaking service?
NO
4. Do you kiss and tell?
YES
5. Do you believe in soulmates, i.e. that there is only one person out there for you?
YES
1. What’s the worst opening line that’s ever been thrown your way?
Nice shoes, wanna fuck?
2. If you had to plan your perfect date, what would you do?
He should take me to Italy.
3. What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you on a date?
Tripped on my own shoes.
4. Under what circumstances would you say it is permissible to date a friend’s ex-spouse (if any)?
If my friend has a new relationship before I start to date her ex.
5. What’s the most romantic thing you’ve ever done for someone else?
A 16 km hike to a cabin in the woods.
Share your stories for a chance to be feature in next week's Talk To Me Tuesday's!
XO
Cheryl
Cheryl
16 Sep 2013
A whirlwind is a weather phenomenon in which a vortex of wind (a vertically oriented rotating column of air) forms due to instabilities and turbulence created by heating and flow (current) gradients.
The thing about a whirlwind is that it usually appears without warning- spins out of control and then leaves a mess in its wake.
Well, ladies and gents- I got caught in a vortex and lived to tell the tale.
I must admit that I am grateful that it touched down very softly and never really picked up any speed- but it did leave its mark.
It is exciting to get caught up in fantasy of what could be when the energy of the moment is so intense– there is no time to breath, the force of the air beneath your feet is just lifting you higher and higher.
Question is- where and how do you land?
I think I just prefer to enjoy a soft breeze, which gently blows in from the south- first warming my skin and slowly penetrating to heat my inner soul.
There was a lesson for me to learn here. Pay attention to the weather reports! I need to trust my instincts at all times and never follow the lead of someone else- especially when I know that it takes time to really know and trust someone.
EVENTUALLY, when the winds calm down and we see the true nature of the sky- we can decide to let go of our hearts.
Have you ever been knocked off your feet by a strong gust of wind?
Share your story with us.
Xo
Cheryl