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Communication Gaps Part 2

Following my post yesterday, read the scenario my dinner described and then think about the communication gap.

A man is watching the news, while his partner is taking a bath in preparation for a night out, and sees that the temperature will be dropping drastically later on. As he watches her get dressed for the evening ahead, he notices her choice of a sleeves dress and makes a remark, “maybe you should dress warmer or take a jacket”.

Clearly the woman then thinks to herself “is my dress too short, too low cut for his business dinner or do my arms look flabby?”

The woman then responds, “why, you don’t like what I’m wearing”?

I laughed. Been there, done that!

My dinner partner asks why women may react insecurely when the man was just expressing concern? I pointed out that it all has to do with communication. Delivery and receiving go hand in hand. The intent may have been genuine and caring, but the delivery and the tone make a huge difference. Not to mention, there was a key piece of information missing from the man’s original statement.

For all you gentlemen who have been in this exact scenario, next time try this: “Babe, while you were bathing, I noticed the weather for tonight and it’s supposed to be cold, so you may want to dress accordingly”.

Ladies- let’s give the guys a break. Remember, they protectors by nature.

Do you think we can learn “2” build bridges over the gaps?

XO 

Cheryl 

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